Relationships. They’re everywhere. From the one you have with your mom, God, even the food you eat. They can be a bit messy and misunderstood and most times this leads to the ending of the relationship. And what sucks more than a break up? Especially if you find out he’s been secretly sending explicit messages to the girl with the big butt you hate because her butt is big. Or maybe it’s over because he “needed more space” to focus on his life and career. Or maybe there’s so much damaged history, it’s just best to part ways instead of try to repair it once again. No matter how it went down, when a relationship ends, it sucks. So what now since that chapter is over? Easy, depress yourself to death. Just joking (this is to prevent that, not make you worse).
Here are just a few tips to moving on from the ending of this relationship:
1. Cry. That asshole broke your heart, so cry it out girl. And when you’re done crying, do it some more because the tears will keep coming. Holding in those tears will just hold in negative feelings that need to be released. Blast “Wrecking Ball” by Miley Cyrus & sing your out while you wash those dishes or sit and watch One Day with some Edy’s Ice Cream (caution: bring two boxes of tissue because this movie is too sad at the end). Do whatever, just make sure you cry it out before you even think of moving on.
2. DO NOT OBSESS OVER HIS SOCIAL NETWORKS. I repeat, DO NOT OBSESS OVER HIS SOCIAL NETWORKS. Delete, block, do whatever so that you won’t be able to check on him. You don’t need to see that he misses you (obviously he does, you’re amazing, who wouldn’t!?) You don’t need to overanalyze his ever update and every update people the people he talks to are doing just to figure out what’s going on with him till your eyes burn. Just erase him from your life. It’s what’s best.
3. It’s okay to have the blues. Take a day off, or four & just throw yourself a pity party. Turn off your phone, sit in bed in your undies, and watch Sex and The City reruns with that extra box of Edy’s Ice Cream you bought since they were 2 for 1. You deserve it, that loser wasted the best years/months of your life.
4. Lean on your friends. Not any friends, your real friends. The ones that will go bar hopping with you on a Tuesday night and won’t let you send that infamous drunk text or let you fall asleep on the toilet in the public bathroom. You need this kind of support to remind you that life moves on and those that stick around, is worth having.
5. Focus on how awesome single life is going to be. Yea you won’t have someone to talk during the day when you’re bored at work or have someone to cuddle with, but c’mon you’re single now! Time make some “me time”. For example, going out with the girls, now you can flirt with that cute stock guy with no guilt creeping up, you can even sign up for that yoga class you’ve never tried because your ex thought it wasn’t a real way to exercise. Just think about it.. No checking-in, no bitter “well have a good time” texts, no going crazy on to why that random girl commented hearts on his Instagram photo. So much relief in so many things.
6. Being a whorebucket doesn’t help you get over him. Biggest mistake is to think being under someone will make you feel better. It will actually make you feel worse, dirty, unwanted, used, and nothing more than the girl he took home after the club. Have your sexapades when you’re officially ready. With eligible bachelors that won’t just leave you at a train station and will pay for your food, all the time. Trust me, you’ll love yourself more if you just wait till you’re ready.
7. Think positive. One of my favorite quotes is, “positive thinking brings positive outcomes.” Focus on being a better you. Go workout for those abs and nice butt you had in high school. Find a new job or fight your way to that promotion you deserve. Be the head lioness , make yourself roar. Besides, what’s a better revenge than success?
No matter the situation, recovery is never just a breathe of fresh air. You will have some good and bad days, but it’s important to remember your worth. That relationship didn’t work out the first (or eighth) time for a reason. Even though this isn’t usually said, but you shouldn’t fight for what you love. Especially when deep inside you know it’s going nowhere. One day you will find that one person who finds you as the goddess that you are 🌸
